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Choose Freedom! More Comfortably Said Than Done
By jeffrey schoener
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Abuse of sex, celibacy, alcohol, drugs or religious convictions are becoming society’s norm. Video games, shopping, television and food, each to excess, while more socially acceptable, are in many ways the same. All feed our egos and each will distract us from many of the more important aspects life. True, many of these distractions may be fun. Yet, when fun overshadows other areas of life we easily move out of balance. When we feed our ego, we feel better and we choose comfort. We feed on what others will call addictions. Caffeine and tobacco—physical attachments will last only a few days, and yet few people want the physical discomfort of being without. They choose comfort and justify this comfort by saying it's an addiction, and addictions are hard. The more immediately our egos are fed, the faster our comfort.
The other side of this coin is when we procrastinate. We keep putting off until we are forced to deal with what we have been avoiding all along. This generally will become larger in form and more difficult to handle. In the moments that we give considerations to these aspects of avoidance, we also feel discomfort, and so the cycle begins. We find ourselves drawn in further.
If free will is our birthright, why aren't we free? We hold many beliefs that are so limiting in scope, yet we do not even wish to investigate the whys and how’s of those beliefs. The largest test of free will is our individual faith. The greatest test of faith is our ability to question. Make no mistake, each action within each subject mentioned in their own way are mind-altering. In fact whenever we choose, we are making decisions. Will we still comfortably fit into our society? Being a part of a group is one of the strongest motivations that we hold. If we change, how will others react? Will we be embarrassed or ostracized? How will we hold on to the convictions of our decisions? Pressure to fit in will usually drive what and how we do things. This is comfortable.
Humans are uncomfortable with discomfort. How many of us are strong enough to make decisions and hold these convictions in the face of what others believe? For any religious or political figures to set up probation for any of these should be an insult. When we act as adults and take full responsibility for our actions, we deserve to be treated as adults. Our governments and our holy men want to treat us as children. Worse still is the fact that many adults hate to make decisions and on some level want to be taken care of as children. These are patterns that we as children develop.
Few people will truly dig for more information. It may seem like too much trouble. It just doesn't seem important enough. How many people listen to sound bytes and then fill the rest in with emotional rationalizations? Ask them what they know and soon they become defensive because they do not know. How many people do you know that are so involved with the drama of the cycle, are victim to the cycle, hate the cycle, and believe that it is too much trouble to let go of the cycle that causes them discomfort and dis-ease.
Life doesn't have to be hard, certain of life's choices may be. While it may not be obvious, each aspect in all of the above-mentioned requires decisions. Attached to those decisions are societal judgments, or more specifically what we believe to be judgments. What makes these decisions more difficult is that many of these are mainly outside of our conscious awareness. What is worse, many would like to keep it there. Why? It's comfortable. Just as it is comforting to commiserate. How many times have you heard someone's tale of woe within minutes of meeting? These people get insulted when you ignore their personal dramas. Some even feel cheated. They find comfort in the commiserations and their ego is fed. This is the reason that many adults are out of balance. Many of these adults by wall clock standards, are in many ways emotional children. On a side note, they have children and teach them how to become limited adults.
The paradox is that the more we focus on the action the more we want to carry out the action and the harder it becomes to NOT focus on that action. This is an addictive cycle. Take any subject. We are taught, or we recognize what we have been taught previously. We begin to build beliefs around this matter. The more we learn about this subject we reach either a chord or a discord. Which ever the direction, we build rationalizations and supports in order to more comfortably believe. The more unconscious we are about an issue, the greater our level of comfort. Become determined and more aware. These changes in our perception must come from within. First choose to become free. This sets up a new thought process. This choice forces conscious direction and action lists. Set up a sequence of what to do and when, determine what information and knowledge you require to continue successfully. Build rationalizations around this and discover the ease to support your new choice. For positive functional choice, on the inside of each of us, is where true freedom begins.
All Rights Reserved 2006
Author's Bio
Jeff Schoener, owner of Neuro-Enhancement Strategies is a licensed NLP® Trainer and Personal Enhancement Consultant in New Jersey, using Whole-Brain Learning with Application NLP® techniques. He teaches these skills for relationships, personal growth and change for workshops, individuals, audio CD programs and books. He also currently features a stress-relief training program for caregivers.
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