Worry. Nothing good comes from this emotion. As a matter of fact, most of the time only bad things come from worry. Worry usually causes stress, anxiety, sleeplessness, headaches, grey hair and wrinkles. So why, do we do it?
When we worry we are doing one of two things. Either thinking about the past or projecting into the future. Neither one has anything to do with right now. I've been using this phrase for many years now and it goes like this.
“Worry about tomorrow and you lose today”. If there is something you are worried about, stop yourself and ask, are my thoughts about the future or the past? I can almost guarantee it will be one or the other.
If you find you are thinking of the past, ask yourself if there is anything you can do to change it? Unless you have some magic time machine chances are the answer is no. Therefore, why are you spending time thinking about it? Don’t waste time and energy thinking about what happened and wishing it were different. No amount of thinking about it is going to change it.
If you find you are thinking of something that hasn’t happened yet then you are projecting your thoughts into the unknown future. That is a waste of time and energy. Your imagination is what is working here and nothing else.
In either case, if you are thinking about the past or the future, you are not being present. The sure fire way to eliminate worry is to accept, plan and take action.
Whatever happened in the past isn’t going to change so accept it, find the good that came out of it and make a plan to prevent it from happening again. If you are concerned about something in the future, accept that hasn’t happened yet, make a plan to get the results you are looking for and take the steps necessary to get the desired results.
If you are worrying about a mistake you made at work yesterday, can you rewind time and undo what has already happened? NO! Therefore, accept what happened and evaluate your current situation. Then come up with a plan to correct the mistake or make it right then take action.
If you are worried about how you are going to pay the rent next month, is worrying about it going to help you pay the rent? NO! What will? Finding a way to save money and make more. Now that will pay the rent.
The next time you find yourself having the emotion you would identify as worry or concern, get present. Think about now, make a plan and take action to get what you want.
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